Trauma

“Be the man of the house and take charge!”

How many times have you heard your wife say those words?

Being proactive and planning projects at work comes easy to you but, when it comes to home life with your wife, you don’t do it. You are perfectly fine with your wife making all of the plans and most decisions.

You tell her, “We’re a team,” and it’s okay for her to handle things, but she’s tired of making all of the decisions and wants to feel secure knowing that you, as the man, can take care of her and the household.

You don’t feel qualified or competent in making decisions for you and your wife – the thought of it makes you anxious, and you begin to wander off in your head to a safe place.

You never had a chance to speak up for yourself.

You know that the way you show up in your marriage is the direct result of your childhood. It was difficult being raised by a dominant single mother who worked hard raising you and your siblings.

Seeing how your mother fought with your distant father and yelled at your siblings, who often caused problems, was enough for you to lay low to avoid problems.

You realized if you stayed out of trouble, kept quiet and to yourself, that it would be the best way to survive in your family. So, you did.

You’re not sure what to do.

You survived your childhood, but those behaviors are destroying your marriage. You don’t like the husband you’ve become, but you don’t know how to change.

If you do nothing, you know your marriage is likely to end.

There is a way to save yourself and help save your marriage.

Trauma Therapy can help.

Trauma therapy helps you face the fears you have in asserting yourself in your relationship as a husband.

You will learn skills and coping strategies to help you feel less anxious and to process the trauma so that it no longer impacts you negatively.

We will identify negative thoughts you feel about yourself because of those memories and replace them with positive ones.

Be the man you and your wife both want to live with.

No more self-doubt and negative self-talk. You will have more confidence in making plans and decisions.

You will be able to recall the memories that have haunted you, but they will have less of a negative charge.

This new version of “You” will allow you to assume that role in your relationship you and your wife have wanted.

Learn to be the husband you know you’re capable of being and increase the trust and intimacy in your marriage.